People always ask what turns me on.
Sometimes they’re expecting a list of body parts or bedroom tricks. But honestly? The things that really get to me are simpler than that… because there’s a lot more to foreplay than physicality for me.
Here are five of mine.
1. Someone who knows how to touch casually, confidently
A hand on the small of my back. Fingers brushing my thigh without hesitation. The kind of touch that doesn’t ask for permission because it’s already in tune with the moment. Not pushy. Not performative. Just… sure. And god, that’s attractive.
2. A low voice in a quiet room
Not loud, not performative—just someone speaking softly, close enough that I can feel their breath more than hear their words. Bonus points if they say my name like they mean it.
3. Someone who knows how to slow me down
We’re all so used to rushing. But when someone can read the room—and my energy—and help me shift gears? That’s hot. Whether it’s pouring me a drink, reaching for my wrist, or just saying, “You don’t need to hurry.” Instant tension release. Instant attraction.
4. Clean hands, a well-worn shirt, and that subtle scent
Yes, I notice. The way someone smells after a shower, with a trace of something woody or warm. The way a shirt fits when it’s been broken in just right. A touch on the back of my neck with clean hands. It’s all part of the spell.
5. Someone who makes me laugh without trying too hard
If I can laugh with you—like, belly laugh, silly laugh, “what the hell are we even laughing at?” laugh—I’m yours for the night. Chemistry doesn’t always need to be smoldering. Sometimes it’s a shared smirk that does the trick.
Some of the sexiest moments don’t look like much from the outside.
But when you’re in them? Everything shifts.
