To me, anticipation is one of the best parts of a date. Of course, I enjoy dates no matter what. But there’s something about building the tension and lust beforehand that takes the experience to a whole new level.
We live in a world of instant gratification – we know what we want, and we want it now (or, yesterday, preferably). But when it comes to intimacy, there are advantages to taking the time to build anticipation and desire.
Waiting doesn’t have to be something that gets in the way of pleasure. It can be the precusor to pleasure – something that enhances and intensifies the experience. Or, in my eyes, pleasure in and of itself.
As a busy woman, I savour the process of setting aside a time and preparing for a long-anticipated date – ensuring my skin is silky smooth, picking out a beautiful outfit to wear, perfecting my hair and makeup… By the time the date rolls around, I’m so excited for what’s to come.
The power of anticipation can also make intimacy even more enjoyable than usual. It can be thrilling to think about what you’re going to experience – building yourself up for when the moment finally arrives. Delayed gratification can really blow your mind.
Like fast food, instant gratification might satisfy us momentarily, but in the long run, it often lacks substance. Sure, variety is the spice of life, but I think the best things are to be savoured and planned.
Occasionally, I hear that planning dates in advance feels artificial or that they are unsure if they will be ‘in the mood’ when the day rolls around. Instead, I think of planning in advance as an opportunity to build anticipation and desire for what’s to come. This isn’t something you have to do, it’s something you get to do. Knowing what’s in store is enough to rev up your excitement, and when the day rolls around, we’ll both show up with even more intensity.
Are you ready to build some anticipation?
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