Meet Samuel Hunter, a Sydney Escort. View Sam’s profile via: https://ivysociete.com/escorts/profile/elora-drake
1. What turns you on?
Kissing. Passionate kissing gets me every single time. Arms wrapped around, face touching, passionate kisses. Like Klimt’s famous artwork.
2. Do you have a preference – morning or evening sex? Why?
Evening, definitely. I’m a night owl and then some. I don’t make any sort of appointments for the AM, be they work or personal, I’m just not a fan of mornings. As Jim Hopper puts it, ‘Mornings are for coffee and contemplation’.
3. Favourite role play scenarios?
I’m not big on role play scenarios, as I find it takes me out of the moment, I’m not being my authentic self, and not present as I’m making too much effort for the scenario. The one surprising thing I loved, was when I used to see couples, I had a cuck booking, but I was the cuck, and the woman was dominating her partner. I was there in my full suit, and she ordered me around, ‘fill up my drink’, ‘tie his wrists down’. I probably loved it because it was such a change from the usual play where I am taking the lead each step of the way.
4. Do you have a favourite romantic gesture? Perhaps gifts, hand written notes, cuddling?
I am often surprised by what clients remember of things I’ve mentioned, and how they may bring that into another date. Be that remembering my favourite dessert, or a book I mentioned an interest in. I do get handwritten notes, and I always read them, and there’s quite a collection in my drawer now. There’s something about taking the time to put actual pen to paper, that makes those things special. In saying that, I do also understand those that may lavish me with a gift, because they genuinely are too time poor to create and write a card.
5. What do you find most rewarding about ensuring a positive experience for your clients?
It’s equal measures rewarding and heartbreaking, as too often when I see a client for the first time, they say something along the lines of ‘I didn’t know it/I could feel like that’. I’m saddened they’ve never experienced being passionately wanted before, but also glad to open them up to this, and what is surely the start of a new journey for them.
6. Have media, such as movies and books, along with cultural or societal factors, shaped your perceptions of turn-ons and attractiveness, and how do you manage these influences in both your personal and professional life?
Ha, definitely. Seeing Madonna’s ‘Like a Prayer’ video when I was like ten gave me a serious attraction to brunettes that lasted most of my life. Years ago, I was following a bunch of alt girl accounts on Instagram, but was finding this saturation was affecting my sex life – being inundated with this body ideal that wasn’t matching up to those I was sleeping with in real life. I unfollowed them, and found a huge difference in my interest in my partner(s). Ironically, now I follow all my amazing peers on social media, I don’t find this to affect me the way it used to. Perhaps I’ve been numbed to just visual stimuli, and crave that in person connectivity, the kissing and stroking and cuddling.
I want to talk about how the patriarchy continues to influence and control the media and whatnot, but really Florence Given probably summed all this up a lot better in her book ‘Women Don’t Owe You Pretty’.
7. What advice would you offer to individuals who are struggling to communicate their turn-ons to a partner, those who are looking to explore their own preferences for the first time in a healthy and respectful manner, and how do you believe open and honest communication about turn-ons and desires can enhance the health and fulfilment of relationships?
Communication is key to every relationship, whatever the parameters of that relationship may be, and being able to feel safe enough to share these turn-ons is just as important. Sex is an important part of (most) relationships, so being able to openly talk to a partner about these things in a judgement free environment is essential. I believe my two longest relationships ended in part to my trying to discuss some things I wanted to try (in hindsight, pretty damn vanilla things at that) only to be met with hard nos and judgement. Dan Savage talks about the requirement for the three Gs (GGG) – Good, Giving and Game. The Game part is important here as there’s a willingness to try something new, which someone may even find they enjoy, once they’ve removed the societal stigma they may have learned and attached to it.
When I worked in an adult shop, I would often get nervous couples coming in, and when I asked what they were after, they would say they’d talked about adding some spice to their sexlife, but were now daunted by the options ahead of them. I told them they had already done the hard part, openly and honestly communicating about their desires. Just as the couples I’ve met in this work, the ones who have openly communicated their wants and needs from our time together seem to be those that are happiest, and most in love.
8. Have you encountered situations where clients or partners have felt uncomfortable discussing their turn-ons or boundaries? How do you create a safe and non-judgmental space for such conversations?
At some point when first meeting a client, I have the consent talk, asking about expectations, and how they would like the next few hours to go. If they don’t offer up any hard nos, I will put one of mine out there, like no biting. Most of the time this is a conversation they’ve never had before in their life, so by somewhat showing them how it works for me, they often follow suit. And these things can be shifted throughout the play time, withdrawing consent of something or giving it for something else. Verbally checking in throughout the session often helps them also get used to the idea of talking during sex and to better communicate what they may prefer.
9. How do you think booking escorts has influenced how people discover and communicate their turn-ons?
Escorts are masters at communication. It’s how we establish our own boundaries, and it’s how we unravel what our client truly wants. By providing a safe, judgement-free space, we help people connect with their intimate selves, discover aspects they may have been too afraid to try or to ask for in their intimate relationships. A client may be hesitant to ask about something, because they think it is too full-on, but for us, it’s just another Tuesday. We’re also good at reading between the lines, reading body language, and can pick up on these things that are unspoken, and may prompt deeper to find out what the client really wants.
This can take time to get to this level, something we grow into with a regular client, where they feel safer to now ask us, or we feel we know them better to read these signs.
