Meet Estelle Lucas, a Melbourne Escort. View Estelle’s profile via: https://ivysociete.com/escorts/profile/estelle-lucas
Have your turn-ons or things that you find attractive changed over time?
I started in the industry at the tender age of 18 and after 14 years of exploring my sexuality through my work, I’m happy to report that my turn-ons have changed over time. Most interestingly, once something is ‘turned-on’ so to speak, it doesn’t turn off, and my sexual appetite has only broadened over time. Things that I originally found unattractive or unappealing have been converted under the right sexual circumstances. I remember my nipples were never sensitive to begin with, but then I started doing doubles with a girlfriend who loved her nipples being squeezed, sucked, licked and played with. I couldn’t relate initially with her experience, but after sharing enough mouth-drooling hedonistic sexual encounters with her, my nipples began to gain sensation. Under the right company, trust and excitement builds, and my nipples followed suit. Much like picking up an accent when you travel to another English-speaking country, I found I could pick up turn-ons if I spent enough time exploring sex with someone I adored. But the best bit is that I’ve never lost interest or appeal in a new sexual act, even if the person I initially explored with was no longer in the picture. That’s why I believe sexuality is a limitless horizon, you’d be amazed to discover your sexual capability should you explore with someone that you trust and feel safe with.
In saying that, there are things that I was initially indifferent or neutral about, but have grown to find intolerable over time, a turn-off so to speak. I remember when I was first asked if someone could kiss me, I would have been in my late twenties. Initially, I found the question off-putting and strange. I felt a bit rejected, as though the person was insecure and unsure about whether they wanted me. Before, I was accustomed and attuned to body language as the baseline for communication and when a verbal element was added in, I didn’t know what it meant. But after a second or third time of being asked this question, I realised how empowering it felt to say yes. I discovered what enthusiastic consent actually felt like, and it felt a lot better than tolerating a bad kiss in the name of getting it over and done with. When I said yes, I felt an equal responsibility in ensuring a fun and exciting sexual connection, that I was an active participant in creating a positive sexual experience. Much like my newly discovered turn-ons, my new turn-offs couldn’t be reversed, the cat could not go back into the bag. Nowadays, if someone leans in to kiss me without asking, I’ll stop them with my hand and ask them if there’s something they would like to ask me. And they do, they were just never taught to express their sexual desires verbally, or the opportunity to practice. That’s why I like my job, I get both the opportunity to learn and to teach, and everyone has something to teach you, even if it’s as simple as asking for a kiss. It is also why I founded the community project Bigger Sister Channel, a peer-to-peer education platform, because I believe everyone has something they can impart with and teach the community, if only they had the facility, space and support to do so. If you would like to discover more about yourself and the industry, check out the work I’m doing with Bigger Sister Channel where we are hosting workshops online and in-person on a range of topics.
