In a world where the digital landscape constantly evolves, escorts face a unique set of challenges. How can one ensure safety while also creating a satisfying experience for clients? Whether you’re a seasoned professional or newly embarking on this career, these Do’s and Don’ts, imbued with wisdom and experience, will guide you through the maze of escort safety.
The Pre-Date Prep
Do: Research Your Client
Knowing who you’re going to meet is imperative. A little birdie named Ivy Societe told me it’s a good idea to ask clients for references or verify them through a trusted community. It’s a must for ensuring your safety.
Don’t: Overlook the Importance of Communication
Your words are your armour. Communicate clearly and set boundaries before your date. Alice, a seasoned escort from Melbourne, once told me, “If you’re upfront from the get-go, you’ll not only attract the clients you desire but will also set the tone for a respectful relationship.”
The Meeting Spot
Do: Select a Public Place
Meeting in a public place for the first time can provide an extra layer of security. The coffee shop around the corner or that cosy bookstore can be ideal spots.
Don’t: Disclose Your Personal Address
For your own safety, never disclose your personal address to a client. Many escorts prefer to use a rented space or hotel room. Client-focused platforms like Ivy Societe can help you find the best spots, even in areas like Brisbane or Canberra.
During the Date
Do: Trust Your Gut
If something feels off, don’t ignore it. In this trade, your instincts are your best friend. When in doubt, don’t hesitate to excuse yourself.
Don’t: Neglect Your Health
Always practice safe interactions and have regular health checks. As escorts, it’s our responsibility to take care of our bodies and protect our clients.
Keeping it Professional
Do: Maintain Boundaries
Your time and companionship are valuable. Honouring your boundaries is key to a sustainable career. Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman nailed it: “I appreciate the whole seduction thing you’ve got going on here, but let me give you a tip: I’m a sure thing.”
Don’t: Mix Personal Life with Work
As tempting as it may be, mixing your personal life with your professional life is rarely a good idea. Keep them separate, like oil and water.
Post Date
Do: Reflect and Learn
Take some time after each date to reflect on what went well and what didn’t. Use this knowledge to improve your future experiences.
Don’t: Engage in Post-Date Communications
Avoid engaging in personal communications with clients after the date. Keep things professional, and use trusted platforms like Ivy Societe to manage your bookings.
Knowledge is power. Keep yourself updated with the latest safety practices by regularly reading blogs or engaging with the community. A BBC article I read, titled “Safety in the Sex Industry”, also offers some valuable insights.
Navigating Online Platforms
Do: Create an Engaging Profile
Having an engaging and authentic profile on directories like Ivy Societe can be instrumental in attracting the right clientele. Pictures, descriptions, and engagement with reviews can help.
Don’t: Overshare Personal Information
While having an engaging profile is essential, be cautious of sharing too much personal information. Avoid sharing personal contacts or information that could compromise your safety.
Dealing with Unforeseen Situations
Do: Have an Exit Strategy
Always have an exit strategy in case things go south. Whether it’s a trusted friend you can call or a safe word you can use, ensure you have a backup plan.
Don’t: Be Afraid to Say No
It’s okay to say no if you feel uncomfortable at any point. Your safety and well-being should be your top priority.
Cultivating Positive Client Relationships
Do: Provide a Quality Service
Satisfied clients can become regulars. Focus on providing quality service, and listen to their needs and preferences.
Don’t: Get Emotionally Attached
Keep your interactions professional. Avoid emotional attachment, as this can blur the lines and make it difficult to maintain boundaries.
Ensuring safety in the escort trade is no easy feat. The golden rules are: conduct client research, communicate, trust your instincts, and maintain boundaries. Staying informed and learning from each experience can help create a satisfying and safe environment for both you and your clients. As the saying goes, “Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.”
