Before I get into this, if you think 30 minutes is just not enough time and can’t imagine how anyone would want to book that, please know your experience is subjective, not objective. But this blog is about a lot more than that.
I also want to warn you that I am about to delve into some serious issues and also say some inflammatory things and you might have some uncomfortable feelings. I will be saying “people do this, workers do this, men do this”. If you do not do these things, are not these things, or do not experience these things, please know that I am simply not talking about you. There is no need for you to argue that you are different. I agree, you are different! It’s not about you, this is an opportunity to learn about someone else.
TW: Sexual Assault. Okay, lets get into it.
In our industry, everyone has curated a menu of offerings and decided what they will and will not do, and why. Different folks, different strokes, it’s all very personal, there is no right or wrong way. We are self-employed and we get to decide how we operate.
Some providers talk about how they do not offer shorter sessions because it does not allow enough time for intimacy, connection and pleasure.
Some providers do not offer shorter sessions because it’s just not financially worthwhile to them, when they take into consideration the time it takes for them to prepare for a booking. Hair, makeup, outfit, travel to their incall space, and potential costs of an incall space and cost of transportation.
I have my own space most of the time so no additional costs apply. While I do require notice to ensure I am able to get to my space in time, I only take about 15mins to get ready, including a shower, as I’m a low-maintenance babe who does not wear makeup and has a small selection of outfits pre-selected at any given time.
I also find connection and intimacy really only needs one decent kiss and a nice hand placement, if both parties are fully present. I think quickies can be really hot and I can get myself off in 5mins or less most days, so my pleasure can still be considered in these short time frames. Absolutely, the more time we have, the more pleasure, intimacy and connection we can have. I would prefer longer sessions, 3 hour sessions are ideal for me as they allow for amazing sex, cuddles AND intimate conversation. But if 30 minutes is all we have? Let’s quit the talking and get down to it.
When I was starting out in the industry, I quickly found a niche as the Blow n Go Queen, offering sessions ranging from 5mins to 30mins, including gloryhole offerings and even a delicious four hands massage with happy ending with a girlfriend of mine. These were a lot of fun and a great money-maker for me. Some guys are short on time, some guys just want to cum, some guys think it’s just hot and naughty and kinky to do something like this between meetings or on their way to the supermarket. It’s me, I’m some guy, I think it’s very hot and kinky. If it’s not for you, that’s fine, but it is for some people.
I was also offering multi-hour bookings at that time, but I enjoyed shorter sessions more. I could have good sex multiple times in a day without draining my social battery, all while keeping on top of my housework and making more dollars per minute. For example, 3x15min was $600 and 3x orgasms and 3x compliments, while 1x60min was $500 and one orgasm, only one client’s worth of compliments. Oh what? You think compliments shouldn’t be a measurable metric when deciding your job satisfaction? Nonsense. Feeling appreciated for your work has a huge impact on job satisfaction across all industries.
But that was the old times. Something has changed since I started out. Something big. The economy.
It used to be that “$200 for 15mins” sounded like a lot of money. Granted, not as much as an hour. But clients, men, would look at that price and think “That’s a lot. That’s the price of a whole week’s groceries. I could fill up my car 3-4 times for that.”
And some men would think “She’s not worth that. How dare she. Other whores are charging $100 for 15mins and she’s charging $200. I’m going to text her and give her a piece of my mind. Maybe if I say mean things to lower her self-esteem, she’ll do it for $100”. So they would message some gross shit to me, and demand lower prices. Others might feel that way but ‘politely’ message asking for discounts then hurl abuse at me when I say no. I would block and delete and move merrily along with my day. A built-in screening process to weed out the disrespectful.
Other men would see my price and think, “Make sense, she is pretty amazing. I can’t afford that though, so I’m going to go somewhere else”. Or they would think, “Makes sense, she is pretty amazing, I’m going to treat myself. I only have time for 15 minutes today, but I’m going to make sure that’s the best 15 minutes of my week”. And they would message me lovely things, then come spend time with me, and show up completely invested in connection and pleasure, have a hot, passionate quickie, and leave with a beaming smile, while they threw a bunch of compliments and gratitude my way.
The difference between these two types of responses has nothing to do with a lower socioeconomic status. There are clients who are incredibly wealthy, that would still baulk at $200 for 15mins, because they do not see my value. There are clients who live off a pension, but feel that connection and intimacy is a priority for them, so they have no problems with saving up, or will sell something to fund spending time with a sexworker. The difference, if you can’t already tell, is misogyny.
In this industry, we have to navigate a large population of men who do not see us as human and do not see us as having inherent value. Not even because we are whores, but because we are women. They hate women. But they do want to fuck us, and in this loneliness epidemic, it’s becoming harder and harder to get laid via traditional means, so we have even more sexually frustrated, awful men blowing up our phones. Angry men, who feel like they shouldn’t even have to pay in the first place, but certainly will not pay more than they perceive us to be worth.
Some of them are even capable of behaving themselves in the room, but best case scenario, the sex is bad, disconnected, disjointed, position changers trying to fit as many activities into their time so they can feel like they are getting better value. Because they are not there to connect, they are there to objectify. More often than not, it’s scary and uncomfortable for us. Our boundaries get ignored in small or big ways, including physical and sexual assault. The threat of actual murder is very much on the table. This is rare, but it happens enough that all sexworkers have to modify our behaviour to keep safe.
It’s not all men, but it is all women, and the threat is even higher for BIPOC sexworkers, migrant sexworkers, disabled sexworkers and trans sexworkers. While I have had some bad experiences, I’m certain that being white and cis-presenting has afforded me a safer passage. I also want to point out that my experiences of dating and being in relationship with men has led to far worse things than anything I have ever experienced with a client, and again, if I was not white these would doubtless have been amplified. The issue with clients is not that they are clients, it’s just a numbers game, we are in rooms with strangers often. I’m not going to delve further into specifics of my own negative experiences, or the experiences of others, as I do not offer Trauma Porn as a service.
So, back to the economy. As we’re all painfully aware, when COVID hit, the economy was heavily impacted, and continued price gouging has ensured that, financially, everything is different now.
In 2025, $200 is now as precious as ever, we need all the dollars we can get since everything costs SO MUCH MORE WTF. People should be clutching at their purse strings thinking as pragmatically as they can about how they spend their money. But instead, a lot of people (myself included), perceive $200 as being “not that much” because you can’t even buy your weeks groceries for that. That’s not even 3 tanks of petrol. $200 is nothing.
So in 2025, when the misogynistic clients see my $200 for 15min price tag, they no longer think “how dare she”, they just book me. Their perception of the value of $200 changed, so I was now perceived as cheap.
The thing about being seen as cheap, is that you get treated even worse. In their minds, someone charging more, is actually more valuable, so they will treat them better, even if they hate women.
So I deleted my 15 minute option earlier in the year. Too many bad experiences in a row led to me deleting it, not because I didn’t want to do them, but because when I did, they were awful. With the right person, they can be great, but those guys are nowhere to be found.
The other thing I need to mention here is that there is a third subset of clients. The type that will treat you nice in the room and even respect or revere you. But they will not book you if you are “cheap” because they all subscribe to the idea that a high price tag = high value woman. They’re still misogynistic, but in a more tolerable way, because they actually want you to be expensive. They respect you more, because you’re expensive, so they treat you well, and we get more money, which is nice for us.
The best thing about getting these clients is that they give us the financial security to say no to other bookings we have a bad feeling about, so we can protect ourselves from dangerous misogyny, by utilising tolerable misogyny.
Its quite disheartening to know that most “good” clients wouldn’t book me at lower rates because they would perceive me to be less valuable, but I absolutely want their booking, and can still have a good time with them.
The paradigm of a sexworkers worth being tied to their pricetag also shows up in the negative view the majority of people have towards brothels. Brothels are freaking awesome. You can just walk through the door, immediately have half a dozen women throw themselves at you, then you get to pick who you want to spend time with then 10mins later you’re touching titties. You don’t need to book ahead, and the prices are outrageously low. Come on. That’s amazing.
A common misconception is that brothel whores are not as good as independent whores. If you think this, I have news for you. They are the same damn people. Many independent sexworkers ALSO work in brothels. Many brothel workers used to be independent sexworkers. A lot of independent sexworkers got their start in brothels. The difference between them is not how they perform in bed, what services they offer, or even how hot they are. The difference is how much admin they feel like doing. If you go to a brothel and treat a babe respectfully, she’s going to give you a great time.
The reason I have continuously upped my price and deleted services is not because I have a problem with doing them. It’s because when I do them, the perception men have of me is that I am disposable, less than human.
The reason I have continuously upped my prices and deleted services is to protect myself, and to hook into the market of clients who automatically think I am more valuable because my price tag is higher.
I kept my 30 minute for $400 offering as long as I could, because I want to be accessible to lovely guys who just can’t afford more, or to people who want to visit on a lunch break and don’t have time for me. But the economy has now caught up, and $400 just doesn’t seem like much any more, and most of my 30 minute bookings the last few months have been awful.
Since I’ve deleted this offering, I have consistently been receiving text messages from people asking for 30 minute sessions, and every single one of those conversations has ended with them trying to negotiate my boundaries and me blocking them. So I stand by my decision.
Would I prefer to just take clients who see me as inherently valuable at any price? Absolutely. But they are too rare to base a business on. That is the current state of the world as I experience it. I would love for you to reflect on what cognitive biases you might be harbouring about the value of a sexworker. Its not just clients, it comes from inside the house. Many sexworkers feel that they are not “good enough” to charge more, or perceive lower rate workers as lesser than, while putting higher rate workers on a pedestal.
Check your biases here – would you book a $100 per hour sexworker?
To those of you that are simply ‘not like that’ – you have to pay higher rates as a direct result of the people that are like that. The patriarchy hurts us all. What are you doing to help dismantle it?
My pricelist continues to be the most effective screening process that I have, and unfortunately it does make me too expensive for some people. The poor treatment I have received has had nothing to do with the income level of the client. But the safety measures I instill as a result disproportionately impact those with a lower income. We are in a cost-of-living crisis and a lot of clients are actually doing just fine, but more of them are not.
I’ve tried charging more for the 30 minute session to bump up my perceived value while still offering a shorter session. It didn’t work. I’ve tried offering discounts to lovely regulars and most don’t want them, they will stop booking or they refuse the discount and tip me instead. Never going to knock back a tip! Your generosity allows me the privilege of being more selective with who I see and I appreciate that so much.
I do a fair amount of market research, constantly tweaking my business settings to see what works. I have found that when I advertise any sort of discount, I get a large increase of bad enquiries. Guys who assume I am desperate for cash and ask for even bigger discounts, rather than lovely guys who just couldn’t afford me before but Huzzah! Now they can, what luck!
My price list forms part of my boundaries. I say what I am willing to do, and for how much. When you attempt to negotiate my prices, you are showing your character as someone who does not respect boundaries. My experience, time and time again, has shown me this type of person will not respect my physical boundaries in the bedroom either. They are therefore a danger to me, so I do not take their bookings.
So then, the clients I would happily offer discounts to, are the ones that would NEVER ask for them. They would love to have a regular connection, but cannot afford me at my current rates, so they never approach me in the first place. Speaking to these people only, I have a special offer for potential new regulars, but you’ll have to take me to dinner to discuss it.
I brace myself for the day I have to delete one-hour bookings off my menu, but for now they are my shortest available option. If you would like to see me for a shorter time due to your scheduling constraints, you are welcome to book for an hour then leave early.
If you are horrified by the awful shit that sexworkers put up with, and would like to lend your support to the industry, please donate!
Our local non-for-profit sexworker support organisation, the Melbourne-based Vixen can be found at Vixen.org.au. They have a general Sex Workers Crisis Fund that you can donate to. They also have a current targeted fundraiser – the Rising Red Lantern, a project that is working to combat the ongoing injustices experienced by Asian migrant sex workers. You can check your biases here too. Did you just automatically think that the first fund was more worthy than the second one? If so, was it the word ‘Asian’ that did that, or the word ‘Migrant’? Did you immediately picture some negative stereotype? Great! You just found something delicious to unpack within yourself, self-awareness is hot, get to work.
