Meet Harper Valentine, a Brisbane Escort. View Harper’s profile via: https://ivysociete.com/escorts/profile/harper-valentine
What turns you on? What turns me on varies wildly depending on my sexual partner or lack of in instances of masturbation, my mood, setting, and an infinite number of other things. One thing I can say undoubtedly turns me on though is the pleasure of others, especially pleasure explored without inhibition, anxiety or restraint. I love to see people enjoy themselves fully in a safe space and it’s such a turn on to watch or think about.
Do you have any unexpected or unique turn ons? Dang, getting me to spill my secrets! I have a secret kink for premature ejaculation which I think is quite a rare one. I especially like it because it’s considered taboo and surprising to most people. It’s usually perceived or judged as a bad thing… but I never did like to follow the crowd, and how could I not be turned on by someone getting so hot for me that they fall into instant ecstasy? That’s super hot in my books!
Do you have a preference – morning or evening sex? Why? Definitely evening – (like many neurodiverse humans) I have a bit of a sensory issue with bright lights and I find the sun too much in the morning to enjoy myself to the absolute fullest so it’s evening for me. Although, I do loooooooove a good wake-up call. Just shut the blinds.
Do you have a favorite romantic gesture? Perhaps gifts, had written notes, cuddling. Any gift that shows me you genuinely thought of me I find to be wildly romantic! Remembering my favourite perfume? Incredible. Noticed I was running low on my favourite snack? Amazing. Saw something in my favourite colour and thought I’d like it? Perfect. A gift is so much more than money to me – it’s a chance to present someone with a physical representation of your care for and interest in them. I’m also a bomb gift giver myself!
What non-physical attributes do you find appealing in clients? There are so many things that can foster interest, comfort, safety and a fun, sexy environment with clients that I find so appealing! A descriptive and thoughtful first message goes a long, long way to pave the way for an amazing and genuine experience. My favourite experiences always include clients that are genuinely interested in seeing ME – they’re interested in and attracted to me genuinely and not just because I happened to be available. A good way to show this is a small gift, and/or expressing the reasons you chose to message me. After that, just genuinely being yourself will always do the rest of the work. I love getting to know people and getting a little peek into who they are while we share a tiny little getaway together.
What do you find most rewarding about ensuring a positive experience for your clients? Oh my gosh, where do I even begin?! This is something I’m so, so passionate about. A lot of my clients see me specifically to create a safe space for them due to social anxiety, disability, a lack of space in their personal lives to explore kinks or fetishes, and a wide range of other unique reasons. Meeting people in positions like this that I can deeply empathise with is the core of my passion for companion work.
For me, there is nothing that compares to the feeling of holding a space for someone that allows them to experience, feel and enjoy themselves in a way that is so rarely found in other contexts. Sharing intimate space with people is so important for the body and mind and I’m so proud to create the ideal space customised for every person I see.
Do you think understanding and communicating about turn-ons is important in a relationship? Why or why not? Yes, yes, YES! Discussions about turn-ons, what feels good, sounds good… smells good. All the conversations need to be had! How else are you going to have super hot, mind blowing experiences? By accident? No way! You’re missing out on so much if you’re not communicating.
Have your turn-ons or things that you find attractive changed over time? Absolutely! With my experiences, my interests and what I find attractive is ever expanding and evolving! I don’t think I ever really lose interest in anything, I just add more to the list as I go! It’s pretty hard to find something that I don’t find to be super hot in one way or another these days to be very honest, haha!
How do you think booking escorts has influenced how people discover and communicate their turn-ons? My experience is that spending time with escorts can be completely transformative for people. You’ll probably rarely meet someone as relaxed, open-minded and experienced as a professional companion. If you need a safe space to train or retrain your sexual confidence, communication skills or self image – sharing experiences with a professional has to be one of the best ways to go about it.
Have you encountered situations where clients or partners have felt uncomfortable discussing their turn-ons or boundaries? How do you create a safe and non-judgmental space for such conversations?
Absolutely, all the time. I would say that my most common experience is with people that fall into this category.
Whether due to experiences with partners, societal norms and beliefs, or just personal reservations – discomfort around intimacy is far too common! Shame and anxiety around sexuality is inbuilt into society, so I think recognising that is an important first step. It’s normal to have reservations around these topics.
Okay, now that we’ve covered the fact that you’re not a totally crazy alien person and you’re actually just a totally normal boring human with a common struggle – it’s helpful if someone can read your body language as you go. I think that’s just something that comes with time and experience, which is why so many people look to professional companions.
I find it easy to tell when someone might be reaching a boundary or when they secretly want more. Reading body language allows me to use encouraging and inquisitive language that allows space to communicate your needs with simple responses like “yes” (that feels good) or “no” (I don’t feel like doing that) is something I find really useful. Retraining your body to feel relaxed about communicating starts with small steps, and takes time and encouragement.
If someone is entirely unsure about what they do or don’t want or like to begin with – I’ll often encourage them to let their mind drift through situations, fetishes, ideas while masturbating and just see how it makes them feel. Hearing back how that experience went is a really helpful starting point for me to know what direction to try and create space in.
