The Goddess Obsidian

A transgender dominatrix based in Brisbane, Australia, with a keen interest in psychology, physiology, emotion, sexuality and spirituality, I am a lifelong student of the human condition.

Kink, Fetish and BDSM is a cornerstone of my existence. I have been involved in lifestyle BDSM for over 10 years, and 5 years of professional experience. I have significant BDSM experience both as a submissive and as a dominant player. I’m very much a fetishist, Latex and Leather couture in particular are intrinsically linked to my sexuality. I can say that I have experience with most kinks or with most facets of BDSM play, but no one is ever an expert at everything.

In terms of expertise, I have a ton of experience with anal play and anal sex. That doesn’t mean that anal play is my favourite type of sexual/BDSM play, but it is an area that I have a lot of experience in and something I’m very good at. I like kinbaku which is usually called shibari in the western world. I also enjoy impact play, electro play, needle play and medical play.

I am an “AMAB” person, meaning I was assigned male at birth, but I have been undertaking hormone replacement therapy for 5 years and counting now. Therefore I have experienced existing and presenting as a cis gender male but I have exclusively existed and presented as female for the past 6 years. My background means I have empathy with both men and women, although I would say that I don’t fit comfortably into the traditional gender binary. I am an outside of the box type of individual.

I’ve had a fair bit to do with the adult industry or the sex industry, and I’ve had plenty of very uplifting and positive experiences throughout my journey. However, I have found the industry to be overly focused on the needs and desires of hetero-normative cisgendered men and I notice that the needs and desires of women, gender diverse and homosexual people tend to be neglected. I have observed that the majority of businesses within the overall industry are run by hetero-normative cisgendered men and most of the content that is produced and services that are offered are geared towards hetero-normative cisgendered men.I’m not arrogant enough to believe that I singlehandedly change the world. But I would like to be the change that I would like to see in the world.

In order for anything to function effectively in this universe, in this world or in any relationship, system or individual organism within the greater sphere, there must be balance. Societies require balance, all relationships require balance and every single one of us individual people requires balance in order to be healthy and thriving. There must be give and take, there must be dark and light, there must be ups and downs, there must be hot and cold, there must be masculine and there must be feminine.

Consent is the cornerstone of all BDSM. It must always be the cornerstone. Consent is the difference between an interaction being loving, uplifting and healing or it being toxic and traumatic. Consent isn't just established at one particular point, it can be retracted at any point of any interaction. Everyone must always be doing what they want to be doing because they consciously decided to do that activity or have that interaction.

All of the experiences that ever made me grow happened outside of my comfort zone. Excitement and fear are part of the same continuum, and our lives would be completely boring and mundane if we never left our comfort zones. However, we only ever take anyone out of their comfort zone if they are consciously consenting to be in that space.

I have a reasonably substantial fetish wardrobe which includes several latex and leather costumes, fetish masks and an array of kinky footwear. I love fetishwear a lot, I don't only love how it looks but I also love how it feels. Fetish clothing and footwear is intrinsically tied to my sexuality and to my psyche. Maybe you'd think it strange, but I despise being naked when I have sex. I'm always a lot more turned on and engaged when I dress up to have sex.

I'm an expert in the area of transformation. I have transformed myself multiple times throughout my life, and this has enabled me to be highly equiped in my ability to help transform others. Not only can I help to dress up and put make up on. I'm into helping others transform in more profound ways to. I want to help to enrich your thoughts, enrich your emotions, enrich your soul. I want to help you have better life experiences. I want to help you connect with your higher self and become the best possible version of yourself. Improvement is never-ending, perfection can never be reached. So therefore we are always growing, always learning and always improving. Of course the path to improvement and success is not always linear. In most cases we must learn through our trials and tribulations and through our errors.

In my kink life I have experience with a lot of BDSM dynamics and situations. I love rope bondage but I also love chains and restraints. Bondage can be carried out in a variety of ways and with a variety of materials.

I'm also a proponent of impact play, electro play, wax play, needle play, urethral sounding, anal play, fisting and a number of other areas.

I love to role play. Dressing up and immersing myself in other characters is always a lot of fun and I always like to put a lot of effort into my role playing.

There is energy within everyone, within everything we do and within every aspect of our universe, and there is energy in every exchange we have with every other being or entity. Love begets love and positivity begets positivity, and of course, the opposite is also true.