Meet Ally Love, a Melbourne Escort. View Ally’s profile via: https://ivysociete.com/escorts/profile/ally-love
When seeing a provider we essentially seek out some sort of a connection with them in order for us to feel wanted, loved and desired. Physical and mental attraction plays a key aspect when it comes to being sexually involved with one another. For example, I’m turned on by someone who can mentally stimulate me and push my buttons per say, so that I’m engaged and yearn for more. Slightly teasing one another with words, keeping engaged, constant eye contact and overall wanting to be basking in each other’s presence.
I won’t lie when it comes to physical attributes, we all have some things that get us going. I’ve always thought that burly masculine men, with big strong arms, beards and tattoos would be the only type of man I’d be attracted to. By doing sex work I’ve been exposed to all types of people from different walks of life. Where once I’d seek out one’s masculinity, I’ve now unexpectedly started to look for something beyond the physical attributes. Mental stimulation and connections turn me on more than what someone looks like. And I’ve taken this into both my personal and professional relationships.
Being a trans woman,
I’m desired,
I’m unique,
I’m a fantasy.
What I love is being someone’s first time. So many of us have fantasies and desires we wish could come to fruition when it comes to the realm of sex. I’m in a position where I can help someone experience and explore such fantasies. It takes guts to see and trust someone with helping us open ourselves to something new.I find it rewarding seeing the impact being with me has on someone. It’s more than sex. It’s a shared experience encompassing mind, body and soul. Nothing can beat that feeling and your first time should always be special.
I’ve been in situations where individuals have been feeling anxious about discussing what turns them on or what boundaries they may have as they would feel shame or judgment. The aim is to always create a safe non-judgemental place to create such conversation where we can be vulnerable and have a chance to communicate our wants and needs. I do this by taking time and listening and explaining what can be realistic and what wouldn’t be. Conversations about sex shouldn’t take place during sex. This can be done when making an inquiry or when you have a longer booking as it gives you time to get to know one another before hitting the sack.
Seeing a provider allows you to be in a safe space to explore and experience new things that perhaps you wouldn’t normally be able to do in a personal setting. As part of my screening process I like to have a fairly comprehensive discussion which heavily involves covering boundaries. This is usually implemented by having a cool conversation where specifics are detailed. An example would be for a new client who has never practiced anal decides they want to be topped. I ask “have you ever been topped before?” and unsurprisingly more than not, they haven’t. I then educate them about being aware and to let me know if they experience any pain etc. and like them to be aware that they can use safe words etc. in short a discussion and education where necessary so that everyone is on the same page.
